GoBeyond

Here’s the point(s):

• Whatever it is you want to do, whoever it is you want to be, all boils down to the action you take. The best time to start has already passed. The second best time is now.

• If you want to excel, find yourself a coach you connect with. “Selfmade” is overrated and oftentimes a stupid lie. The people who are the best at what they do have coaches. Period.

• I am writing a book. I will be sharing bits of the process and maybe also potentially bits of the writing along the way (I might need a fear coach to help me with the latter half of that statement LOL)

The phrase “That’s just the way I am” can be powerful or limiting depending on how you use it. When tied to positive behaviors—like kindness, persistence, or discipline—it can reinforce habits that move you closer to the person you want to be. But when used to excuse limitations, it can shut down curiosity, growth, and change. The key is recognizing that many things we think are part of our identity are actually habits we’ve practiced over time. By intentionally changing the way you talk about yourself, you can begin to reshape your identity and create the habits—and life—you want.

When my wife Katrina was pregnant, every parent warned me, “Don’t blink—it goes by fast!” and I, of course, rolled my eyes. Eight months into life with River, I’m happily eating my words as she transforms from a sleepy bean into a wild, curious little explorer. Watching her learn to crawl has reminded me that growth always starts with safety—but real progress happens when we’re willing to get uncomfortable. Each tumble and tear has become a lesson in perseverance, courage, and the magic of trying again. River may have learned to crawl, but I’ve learned something even better: how to coach growth through process, not product.