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It Isn’t Fear That Holds Us Back, But Rather How We Respond
September 10, 2024
The Formidable Four—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—represent our instinctive primal reactions to fear and perceived danger. While these responses can be lifesaving in dire situations, their effectiveness depends on the context. For example, freezing when one should fight or fawning when one should flee can be detrimental. It’s not fear itself but our reaction to it that influences outcomes. I’ve traditionally leaned towards flight or fawn, which served me well until I faced a situation in Joshua Tree National Park where these reactions were inadequate. During a perilous climb, my inclination to flee was overridden by my climbing partner’s calm, encouraging me to fight instead. This shift in approach, honed through practice in safer moments, saved my life and highlighted the importance of intentionally developing our reactions to fear. Understanding and mastering our instinctive responses can transform challenges into opportunities for growth and survival.
Holding On vs. Letting Go
August 10, 2024
In my workshops, I often begin by asking participants what inspired them to join. Many share a common desire to overcome specific fears, whether it's fear of failure, heights, or the unknown. It's natural to want to conquer fear, as it's an uncomfortable emotion that can overwhelm us. I, too, once approached fear with a mindset of conquering it, particularly in challenging climbs. However, I discovered that resisting fear only intensified its grip. Over time, I learned to acknowledge fear's presence calmly and redirect my focus to my performance. Embracing fear as part of the human experience allowed me to build a positive relationship with it, redirecting energy toward achieving success rather than fighting it. By shifting our mindset from avoidance to curiosity, we can transform fear into courage and embrace its lessons in our personal journeys.
Live and Let Fly
July 10, 2024
Dr. Brianna Rita Pagán, a local SoCal ultra runner, NASA engineer, and professor, caught my attention on Instagram after I completed the Backbone trail last December. Her adventures align closely with my newfound passion for running, particularly her impressive single-push run of the entire trail. Recently, she shared a remarkable story of rescuing three different birds that had unexpectedly flown indoors, prompting her followers, including myself, to ponder its spiritual implications. This incident resonated deeply with me, inspiring reflections on unity and supporting each other's unique potentials. It reminded me of the importance of fostering curiosity and encouragement, traits exemplified by true friends who help us transcend perceived limits. Dr. Pagán's actions and thoughtful questions continue to inspire a community dedicated to exploring life's deeper meanings and supporting one another's aspirations.
Fear Is A Barking Dog
June 10, 2024
Fear is a barking dog at the door, alerting us to potential threats that may not be immediately visible. It serves as a signal to pay attention, urging us to investigate and assess the situation with curiosity and care. When I hear my own "barking dog" of fear, I approach it with curiosity, exploring what might be causing the alarm—whether it's a genuine obstacle or simply a false alarm. By acknowledging and addressing these fears thoughtfully, I build trust with my inner voice of reason, ensuring that I respond appropriately to real concerns while reassuring myself when fears are unfounded. This relationship of trust and responsiveness allows me to navigate challenges effectively, understanding that fear's role is to keep me aware and attentive. How we engage with our own "barking dog" of fear shapes our ability to manage it constructively and navigate life's uncertainties with resilience.
Look Both Ways
May 10, 2024
Navigating the currents of change can be both exhilarating and daunting, marking a dance between our present and future. The uncertainty can feel unsettling, urging resistance even when discontent whispers change is needed. I've experienced these shifts firsthand—from relocating as a child, to sudden school changes, and cross-country moves. Each brought lessons in embracing change versus stability. Finding balance is key; those who embrace change discover growth, yet risk overlooking the rewards of commitment. Conversely, those rooted in stability may miss opportunities for personal evolution. I relate to the adage "jack of all trades, master of none," finding comfort in curiosity over singular mastery. Embracing change requires openness and reflection, challenging us to question before acting, fostering growth amid uncertainty.